So they rejected you, and you feel worthless now? Don’t! I understand it must be feeling as if your world is falling apart, but really it isn’t. Getting rejected isn’t the end of the world. It is the beginning.
Have you ever thought of it this way? ‘Rejection is closure.’ Some potentially unhealthy person or thing just saved you from the pain, and threw itself out of your life, and all the dead ends you were watering are now cut off! You can now begin something new and different and adventurous and fun, and I can’t stop thinking of adjectives but you got my point, didn’t you?
Rejection is just a phase. Just like happiness doesn’t last, (complain if you will), rejection won’t either. I know it hurts so much you cannot stop thinking about it, but you’re probably not trying hard enough.
I’ll tell you why it hurts so much.
You expected not getting rejected, you attached all your emotions with just one goal, and you didn’t have a backup. Having a backup does no hurt, no harm. In fact, there should always be a plan-B. I’m not talking about relationships here, but career wise you always should. That way it hurts a little less.
Anyway, it’s all in the head and the good news is, if you try you can really get past it.
Cheered up? Okay, now here’s what you have to do to cope up with the negative feeling that comes along with rejection. So, all you have to do is wake up at 4 am everyday and meditate for an hour, go for a run and eat raw eggs for breakfast. Just kidding! I meant to top your rejection with some more panic. But on a serious note, I’ll give you some simple ways or steps to get over rejection.
- Accept the truth: If you have been rejected or if you have failed, that’s okay. It’s a part of life. Accept it and learn from it. That’s how you’ll grow.
- Know your worth: Don’t let one rejection or two or three or hundred rejections define you. Understand that you are good enough, and you just need to trust the timing and yourself, and keep working hard as you can.
- Analyse and understand the whole situation: What exactly happened? And why? Think it through. This is a very major step and you need to make sure you’re covering all the points and factors responsible for you getting rejected. Analyse yourself and your potential, your strengths and weaknesses as well. Make a list of your pros and cons and check if you’ve been chasing the right goal all this while.
- Don’t be angry: Getting angry won’t reverse the rejection card. So, drink water, calm down and think wise.
- Be objective: Be very fair and just with all these steps and don’t be biased, because it’ll harm no one but you. Be very objective about why it happened and be honest and truthful with yourself.
- Make amends: Improvising is the key, remember that. Work hard and change your weaknesses into your strengths, your cons into your pros.
- Dust yourself off, and try again: Try again, and come out stronger. This time, immerse yourself into it and give in your one hundred percent.
Falling is okay. Everyone falls once in a while. A winner is who falls a hundred times, but rises back up like a phoenix each time.
About the Author:
Gaurangi Gupta (DAV College 10)