With their busy schedules trying to provide good lives to their children, parents often forget to give proper time to them. Whether on dinner tables, family vacations, Sunday brunch or weekend gateways parents should spend quality time with their kids. Although carving out time is very difficult but everyday fifteen – twenty minutes only focused on your kid(s), it means the world to them and strengthens their bond creating a magic. Whatever age, surrendering some time to your kid’s world really helps to hear and understand what your kid is actually saying.
“Undivided attention” Don’t we all need it, crave it? Isn’t that the thing – the beautiful, innocent and pure soul is craving and shows it through all the mischievous activities he/she does? Giving proper quality time won’t only nurture their graceful souls but also will give incredibly profound memories. Starting with basic manner to small talks to life time lessons, there is a lot for which your kid will look up to you. The child can sense when it is safe to open up and share their permeable feelings or talk about more difficult feelings that are still hurting them. It is only possible if parents begin to give their child more quality time and are comfortable to talk on any topic on any point of time.
Imagine the one day your child comes home and asks you, point-blank, what intercourse means. What will you say? Well you can always avoid the topic, but everybody agrees that parents should be “open and frank” and this should apply when their children asks them these type of questions. It should be you telling them about these things rather than some classmate or kid down the lane. But how can this be transformed after centuries of silence and secrecy?
Curiosity about sex is a natural step. Younger kids are more interested about babies and pregnancies, rather than mechanics of sex. But to have a comfortable communication with their kid, one should understand how strong their own relationship is. They must be able to talk freely to each other and develop sensitivity to each others feelings.
If there is an open and comfortable communication, kids are more likely to talk to parents about each and every problem at any phase of life. They will be ready to talk to their parents about every toll of adolescence such as relationships, an abuse of alcohol and drugs, depression, bullying as well as sexual problems and curiosities. Understanding correct information can protect children from risky behaviour as they grow up. Beginning a conversation about sex at an early and continuing that conversation as the child grows is the best and safest sex education theory. It helps you to avoid the risk of that big elephant like sudden uncomfortable question, when the child reaches to adolescence. These questions are the easiest and best if they come out of life experiences, like a pregnant woman or a baby.
Family values can also be given through sex education. For example, in some families it is believed that intercourse should be saved for marriage, this can be part of the discussions about sexuality. It is a significant chance that your child, now as a teenager will not be receptive of this message, if this subject has never come up.
Here are some morals that everybody should know:
- No one has the right to exploit another person’s body: commercially or sexually.
- No one has the right to spread disease. If infected, get medical treatment fast.
Children who receive sex education at home are actually less likely to engage in risky sexual activity. It helps the kids to understand their body much better and have positive good vibes about their own bodies.
The era of birds and bees is gone and its high time parents stop evading this topic.
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