If you’re just another college student who’s been failed by the sex-ed (or the lack of it) in our country, and looking for ways to have safer sex, then you’ve come to the right place. Let us help you get around with a few safe practices that are bound to keep you safe even with little or no knowledge at all.
Well, technically this isn’t safe sex. It’s just no sex at all. But it’s very important to abstain from sex if you’re undecided or uncomfortable or unsure of having sex with your partner. Or if you’re uncomfortable with having premarital sex (i.e. sex before marriage). Even more so if you’re having sex for the first time ever. Abstain from sex until you’re absolutely sure you want to, and choose your partner carefully.
Remember: Your comfort should be your priority, and don’t be coerced into engaging in sexual activity.
This has to be the most well-known form of having safe sex. Wear a condom. Always. They’re quite effective in keeping you safe from STDs, most STIs and help avoid pregnancy. There are both male and female condoms available out there, and can be bought without prescription at almost every Chemist shop.
Note: Do not wear multiple condoms at once, and don’t use both male and female condom at once because the friction can cause them to break. Don’t use a broken or torn condom. And dispose the used condom properly.
3. Low-Risk Sexual Activities:
If you’re not sure whether or not to engage in intercourse with your partner, it’s okay. If you’re unprepared, you could opt for non-penetrative sex or oral sex, or even sex-toys.
Keep in mind, these activities are considerably safer, but there are some STIs (like herpes) that can still be transmitted.
4. Use Water-Based Lubricants:
If you’re wearing a condom, DO NOT use an oil-based lubricant. Oil-based lubricants (such as baby-oil and vaseline) can break latex condoms down, rendering them useless.
Instead, use a water-based lubricant. They’re available at most chemist stores and can be purchased without prescription. You could also opt for silicon-based lube.
5. Get Tested and Treated:
Remember those uncomfortable TV ads about getting tested for HIV after having unprotected sex? Well, listen to them.
If you do have unprotected sex or have had in the past, get tested for STDs ASAP. Not only is it important for your health, but also for the well-being of your partner.
It can be especially uncomfortable for students and young people to go to the doctor to get tested, and some doctors can be judgemental, but it’s always best to be safe.
6. Know the Risks:
It’s always helpful to be educated about the risks of various sexual activity, especially if you engage (or plan to engage) in it. Talk to your partner, be honest and encourage them to be so too.
Know the risks of accidental pregnancy and use contraception. There are risks involved in non-monogamous sexual relations and having sex with multiple partners. Having sex with sex-workers also has it’s risks. Don’t do drugs, but if you do, do not share drug paraphernalia (needles etc).
Certain sexual activity like anal sex have higher risks involved, and should be performed with special care. Certain demographics (like homosexual men) are more prone to certain STIs, and should take special care.
Remember, no method of contraception and protection is 100% safe. Many STIs don’t show any visible symptoms. If you have unprotected sex, get tested.