Men and women; women and men. We’re not so different, yet we can’t seem to figure each other out. But dear girls, don’t despair because we bring to you 5 top-secrets about him.
1. He Doesn’t Care About The Texts! (And Neither Should You)
I don’t know what the biggest relationship concern was back in the days of touch-tone phones; but these days, it’s all about a guy’s texting habits: he used to text so much in the beginning, why don’t he now? Why does he take so long to reply? Why does he disappear for days at a time? Why are his texts so short? And the list goes on. The really sad yet, funny thing is that men have NO idea how intensely their texting habits are being scrutinized. None! So girls stop thinking that he is losing interest or doesn’t care. You can’t measure the depth of a relationship by the amount of texts received on average per day or by how much time has elapsed in between each text. Please understand girlies! If a man is at work, then that is the sole centre of his world and nothing exists outside of that.
2. Actions Speak Louder Than Words:
We encounter a lot of questions that go something like: “I’m really confused. My boyfriend says he’s crazy about me and I’m the most amazing girl he’s ever dated. But he always blows me off and he can’t hang out and doesn’t have time to talk on the phone or text back or take me out on dates.” Make a note that, it doesn’t mean he’s cheating. But, if he says he really cares about you and misses you, and then goes weeks without calling or making time to see you because he’s swamped at work or some excuse along those lines, what he’s really saying is you’re not important enough to make time for. Love is a scary word for a lot of guys. This doesn’t mean they’re incapable of feeling it– it just means they often have a hard time saying it out loud.
3. He Intend To Make You Happy; He Just Doesn’t Always Know How:
Oops! Here comes the biggest problem. Hold onto your seats, ladies, this might come as a major shock: men want to make you happy. Yes, you got me right. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. The only problem lies in the fact that, he has no idea how to do it. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there). They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues. If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want! When he sees he can make you happy, he will be motivated to do whatever he can to keep you that way. The best strategy is to ask for and encourage what you want without complaining about what you don’t want.
4. He’ll Get Over His Baggage If He Thinks He’s Going To Lose You:
Whether it’s a breakup, a demanding schedule, a stressful job, or a painful past, it will become a non-issue the minute a man thinks he’s losing you. Guys will resort to all kinds of excuses to avoid being in an exclusive relationship. If he senses you will leave if he doesn’t commit (or if you actually go ahead and say this isn’t what you want and actually cut the chord), he’ll get his act together fast! If a man really cares about you and knows you’ll leave if he doesn’t commit, he will forget his ex-girlfriend’s name and commit to you in a heartbeat. He won’t delay for a second and risk some other guy swooping in and snatching you up. And if he doesn’t commit and still insists he ‘can’t give you what you want?’ Well, he was probably never that into you to begin with and it’s better to know before you get in too deep.
5. Their Number One Concern Is Losing Their Freedom, Always:
He’s not a slave! Understand it or not. In the interest of making your life better and your understanding of men crystal-clear, I’m going to skip the sugar-coating and cut right to the heart of it: men are terrified of losing their freedom. It may sound ridiculous or immature, but it’s the truth. This is the reason men are so afraid of commitment. Does this mean all men want to run around and sleep with every female that crosses their path? No. Men don’t want to be locked down or shackled to the proverbial ball and chain. The nature of a man is to seek newness; men love to live in a world of unlimited possibilities. You might be the most wonderful girlfriend in the whole world, but he still won’t abandon his inherent need to be free. The best thing you can possibly do is continue to have a strong sense of self and a life outside the relationship. Don’t rely on him to be the sole center of your universe because the moment he feels that kind of pressure, he’ll run.
And this isn’t just about him– it’s also for you. It’s extremely important.
The best you can do to make a relationship work is keeping it simple. Don’t over-think, it won’t fetch you anything.
About the Author:
Luck favors those who work hard. Hi, I am Raahat Sarpal, quite creative and a passionate writer. I write what I feel or what is happening around me. For me its more important to earn knowledge that bucks. A great learner today will surely be some huge earner tomorrow; that’s what I believe.