Your 20s are the most crucial years as they comprise the deciding phase of your life. You can “make it or break it” in your 20s. Yes, I know, the road is suffused with temptations and distractions but a firm will would help you make wise decisions that will satisfy you in the longer run whereas a carefree and laid-back attitude might lead you down the road of failure.
Do you have what it takes to become a phenomenal success? Or would you rather settle for a life full of compromises? The choice, fortunately, lies in your own hands. THIS is the time for you to hustle, scrap and fight for the life that you want for yourself. You manifest your own destiny in these vital years.
Every move you make now is going to come back around. After all, you reap what you sow! So don’t mess it up, pal! Here are 10 things that you should shun in your 20s.
- Money Over Passion:
Never do anything just because it’s convenient for you. Challenge yourself and build your own dream instead of building someone else’s. But at the same time, keep an eye on the future and not on immediate compensation. What are you going to do with those weekly wages anyways? Stop being so entitled and pretending like you deserve cash, prizes and vacations just yet. You will soon realize once you’ve made it that making money doesn’t make you happy. And as the famous saying goes –
“Success is not a destination, it’s a journey.”
- Looking For Love?
Yes, I know! Everyone is doing it but remember just because everyone else is jumping down the cliff doesn’t mean you have to too. Be smart and don’t fall into the trap of a relationship. Sure it seems like the right thing to do, but your 20s are entirely too pivotal for your personal growth rather than on focusing on fulfilling the wishes of another individual.
Moreover, first find yourself and fall in love with yourself. Get out there, meet new people, test the limits and have fun. You have your entire life to settle down and find your Mr./Ms. Perfect.
- YOLO is for losers:
Pinning all our mistakes on the head of “You Only Live Once” is sheer foolishness. We all are guilty of making irrational decisions in our 20s. Fast people and fast times with money in your pocket always lead to over-extending yourself.
A life of partying, heavy drugs and pretty much having that YOLO attitude might knock you down real hard. Get focused and look into what you’re supposed to be doing. If you don’t know what that is, then it is HIGH TIME when you figure it out ASAP!
- Want or Need?
Don’t make all your wants turn into needs. Expensive women and cheap thrills coupled with the expensive sneakers should not be on the list of your needs. Setting the foundation for your business and team is far more important than updating your wardrobe and chasing sex.
So better distinguish between what you want and what you actually need. Make sure your priorities are in order or you might just lose track of how real life works.
- Forgetting ‘Family always comes first’ :
Always! Always remember, family is made up with ties of blood. And blood is thicker than ‘love’. Don’t forget those who were always there for you and with you – in thick or thin. They were there for when no one else was, so all those getting blindsided by the bling, remember where you came from, and remember your roots. Family comes first, no matter what happens!
- The Blame Game
Own up folks! Don’t play the blame game where you pin down your failures on anyone and everyone but yourself. Hold yourself accountable for everything you do. At the end of the day, all you have in the world is yourself — so go hard. Don’t look to anyone for answers and instead of making problems, create solutions.
Whether it was that job you wanted, the funding you needed or the love you think you can’t live without, there is no one that can be held accountable in this universe except for you.
- Getting comfortable like you actually deserve off time:
Unless you’re chilling with Calvin Klein models in Bahamas this weekend, you shouldn’t even be thinking about taking a break anytime soon. You need a vacation? Everyone does! So be patient and hustle because this is not the time for you to have a laidback and lazy attitude.
What have you accomplished? Mark Cuban spent seven years building out his first business before he even took a break. Don’t get lazy now.
- Are you investing properly?
Your love life is an investment — and the smarter the deals you execute, the savvier of an investor you become. Instead of navigating through an ambiguous investment in which you shower your lover with cash and prizes for existing, make sure he or she will demonstrate positive returns.
(PS. – I didn’t really mean that in monetary terms!)
- Holding on to friends that waste your time and add no value to your life:
Friendships are also investments. You’ll be sucked down into the abyss right with them if you don’t cut the fat of the group. Avoid all those ‘frenemies’ and fake friends and use your quality time with quality people.
The only individuals you should be surrounding yourself with are those that challenge your ideas and motivate you to rise higher and do better. And I’m not talking about those pessimistic assh*les who shoot down your ideas with their negativity, but rather the ones who genuinely want to see you succeed in life.
Know the difference and choose wisely. The company you keep says a lot about the kind of personality you have.
- Karma – the real b*tch
Well, as Justin Timberlake keeps saying “what goes around comes around”! There is nothing more true than the fact that whatever goes around comes around, and you are not immune to the cosmic forces that be. So whether it’s burning bridges with people you loved, stealing your friend’s girlfriend or plotting against an ex-partner, we must always remember that karma is the biggest b*tch we would ever meet.
Don’t be surprised when reality catches back up with you and brings you to your knees for all your “indiscretions”. I’m not asking you to become some Mother Teresa, just be a good person. Don’t do anything just because it’s considered the next in thing. Think before you act and you’ll easily find the goodness lying inside of you J
“Don’t be a bro, man. Be a man, bro!”
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